“Embrace” Trailer

I’m a little conflicted, hence why I’m putting my thoughts about this on paper.

I saw the new “Embrace” documentary trailer the other day, and I’m still not quite sure what to think about the whole thing.

In case you haven’t seen me lately (and not many of you have, I’m hiding) I’ve been steadily creeping up on the scale. Nothing fits, I feel like crap, so Mark and I decided that we need to hide the pizza cutter and get back into the game. Which means I’m back eating good healthy food, which I love to do.

….when, of course, I’m in the mood.

I’m certainly in it to win it right now. So when I saw the Embrace documentary, I kind of didn’t know what to think. Here are some rough thoughts:

  1. I agree there is a major problem with men and women being “body shamed” by the media. And it kind of doesn’t even matter what your body type is. I literally know no one who is 100% happy with the way they look right now.
  2. On another note, I don’t know that deciding that “too much sacrifice, too much time, and too much obsession” is a reason not to take care of yourself.
  3. I don’t want my son (or my theoretical daughter) to hate the way he/she looks, either. But I don’t want my kids to see me and think that what I’m doing is hating my body. On the contrary, I love my body and I want to make sure I have a body to love for a very long time!!
  4. I feel bad, because MAN it is hard to get out of a rut and do something good for yourself. Save us both the embarrassment and don’t even ask me the last time I worked out. And I think sometimes it can be a lot easier to “give up” and accept what we have instead of making choices that will change it.

I don’t want to be that asshole saying you shouldn’t “embrace” yourself, because we all should do that regardless of what we look like or what we’re struggling through. But the issue is that a woman made this documentary because she had three kids, hated her body, started working out and joined a body building competition of some sort and then said she was miserable. Even though she had the ideal body, she wasn’t happy. So she gained weight — I guess she stopped working out like an insane person and started eating carbs again, who knows — and now she’s trying to help other women in the world stop obsessing about their bodies.

It’s a super noble goal, and one that I think needs to happen. Definitely. We shouldn’t be comparing ourselves to supermodels thinking that being skinny will make our dreams come true. I think we all know it won’t.

My problem is that the message I’m getting from this documentary is that there is no emphasis on HEALTH. It’s all about embracing your body as you are right now. Not for nothing, but I am not happy with how I look and “embracing” this hot mess is far from where I should be as a responsible adult. And I see other people around, shopping or running their errands, and I can’t believe how many overweight people there are in the world. We shouldn’t be sending the message that it’s OK to stuff oreos in your face and drink an entire liter of cherry coke (yep, things I’ve done in the last few months) and think that all of that is a-OK, because I’m “embracing” an unhealthy body that I created through poor choices. I can embrace the fact that I’m never going to be as skinny as my cousin Jenny, who is an amazingly beautiful human being, and embrace the fact that I’ll always verge on the more stocky Italian side of my heritage. But I don’t think it’s OK to give up on my health and just embrace my body. I think it’s an excuse. I think it’s lazy. It’s like people saying that they’re never going to bother trying because they are never going to change something. You don’t KNOW that you can’t change it unless you try. And I’m not saying to be anorexic or go off the deep end either, because it’s not ABOUT your weight or the scale. It’s about health. And, really, I’m disappointed that I didn’t see that in this trailer. I hope it is in the documentary. Because otherwise you’re replacing one bad message (starve so you can look like people photoshopped in magazines) with the equally unhealthy message (it’s OK to be obese because I accept myself).

It’s not OK to be obese. It’s not. There are a million published studies showing why you should not be carrying around excess weight. What we should do is embrace our bodies as the vehicle for our humanity and spirit, and treat it like we treat anything of value: with respect and proper care. In my mind I’m thinking of all the times I’ve heard bodies compared to temples, homes, cars, etc and it makes me laugh. I take better care of my car. So I’m not going to EMBRACE the result of my oreo-eating mismanagement. I’m going to fire the current staff and get some reasonable, responsible adults in here who like carrot sticks to call the shots.

Right? Or am I totally missing the point here? I’d like to hear your thoughts, and I’m interested to know if you’re planning on seeing this.


2 thoughts on ““Embrace” Trailer

  1. sarahlappleyard says:

    THIS! ALL OF THIS! You’re not wrong, at least in my opinion, like you said you can embrace the fact that your Italian heritage does play a part in how your body is built, but that doesn’t mean you can let yourself go and eat whatever. I know many healthy men and women who eat right and workout, but they will never be “model thin” and that’s fine because like you said they are choosing ‘health’ over ‘weight’ and that’s wonderful! But, nowadays, in our culture, I see this so often. Instead of preaching the right answer, we preach the extreme opposite answer to what originally was. So instead of preaching health, we praise obesity as beauty as the polar opposite of the model thin mindset taken over the past twenty to thirty years. If we look back in history, in the 50’s and early 60’s being curvy but healthy was praised. Then with models like Twiggy, etc coming out on the fashion scene we turned to the super thin frame that only a small percentage of our population has. Twiggy couldn’t help that she was that thin, I’m not blaming her, but the world saw her, loved her, and said ‘I want to be just like her’ which started that dangerous spiral. Now we’re running in the wrong direction again and it’s worrisome, but not unexpected within our current world.


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