I’m a little conflicted, hence why I’m putting my thoughts about this on paper.
I saw the new “Embrace” documentary trailer the other day, and I’m still not quite sure what to think about the whole thing.
In case you haven’t seen me lately (and not many of you have, I’m hiding) I’ve been steadily creeping up on the scale. Nothing fits, I feel like crap, so Mark and I decided that we need to hide the pizza cutter and get back into the game. Which means I’m back eating good healthy food, which I love to do.
….when, of course, I’m in the mood.
I’m certainly in it to win it right now. So when I saw the Embrace documentary, I kind of didn’t know what to think. Here are some rough thoughts:
- I agree there is a major problem with men and women being “body shamed” by the media. And it kind of doesn’t even matter what your body type is. I literally know no one who is 100% happy with the way they look right now.
- On another note, I don’t know that deciding that “too much sacrifice, too much time, and too much obsession” is a reason not to take care of yourself.
- I don’t want my son (or my theoretical daughter) to hate the way he/she looks, either. But I don’t want my kids to see me and think that what I’m doing is hating my body. On the contrary, I love my body and I want to make sure I have a body to love for a very long time!!
- I feel bad, because MAN it is hard to get out of a rut and do something good for yourself. Save us both the embarrassment and don’t even ask me the last time I worked out. And I think sometimes it can be a lot easier to “give up” and accept what we have instead of making choices that will change it.
I don’t want to be that asshole saying you shouldn’t “embrace” yourself, because we all should do that regardless of what we look like or what we’re struggling through. But the issue is that a woman made this documentary because she had three kids, hated her body, started working out and joined a body building competition of some sort and then said she was miserable. Even though she had the ideal body, she wasn’t happy. So she gained weight — I guess she stopped working out like an insane person and started eating carbs again, who knows — and now she’s trying to help other women in the world stop obsessing about their bodies.
It’s a super noble goal, and one that I think needs to happen. Definitely. We shouldn’t be comparing ourselves to supermodels thinking that being skinny will make our dreams come true. I think we all know it won’t.
My problem is that the message I’m getting from this documentary is that there is no emphasis on HEALTH. It’s all about embracing your body as you are right now. Not for nothing, but I am not happy with how I look and “embracing” this hot mess is far from where I should be as a responsible adult. And I see other people around, shopping or running their errands, and I can’t believe how many overweight people there are in the world. We shouldn’t be sending the message that it’s OK to stuff oreos in your face and drink an entire liter of cherry coke (yep, things I’ve done in the last few months) and think that all of that is a-OK, because I’m “embracing” an unhealthy body that I created through poor choices. I can embrace the fact that I’m never going to be as skinny as my cousin Jenny, who is an amazingly beautiful human being, and embrace the fact that I’ll always verge on the more stocky Italian side of my heritage. But I don’t think it’s OK to give up on my health and just embrace my body. I think it’s an excuse. I think it’s lazy. It’s like people saying that they’re never going to bother trying because they are never going to change something. You don’t KNOW that you can’t change it unless you try. And I’m not saying to be anorexic or go off the deep end either, because it’s not ABOUT your weight or the scale. It’s about health. And, really, I’m disappointed that I didn’t see that in this trailer. I hope it is in the documentary. Because otherwise you’re replacing one bad message (starve so you can look like people photoshopped in magazines) with the equally unhealthy message (it’s OK to be obese because I accept myself).
It’s not OK to be obese. It’s not. There are a million published studies showing why you should not be carrying around excess weight. What we should do is embrace our bodies as the vehicle for our humanity and spirit, and treat it like we treat anything of value: with respect and proper care. In my mind I’m thinking of all the times I’ve heard bodies compared to temples, homes, cars, etc and it makes me laugh. I take better care of my car. So I’m not going to EMBRACE the result of my oreo-eating mismanagement. I’m going to fire the current staff and get some reasonable, responsible adults in here who like carrot sticks to call the shots.
Right? Or am I totally missing the point here? I’d like to hear your thoughts, and I’m interested to know if you’re planning on seeing this.